On the day of my job interview at Playgirlthe current editor in chief had flipped through an issue, giving cursory descriptions of the photos in a tone that fell somewhere between jaded and annoyed. Black guy is the centerfold in some silky bedroom, guy on a leopard print couch, another guy on leopard print pillows—he's uncircumcised—and a threesome of two guys and a girl in a car wash. I fixed a bored, nonchalant look on my face, which I hoped conveyed to her that I saw this kind of thing every day. I was then asked to write the boy copy to accompany a naked pictorial of well-muscled man running naked on a sand dune. Naked Sand Dune Guy posed suggestively with a spear in his hand and, later, lounging on some pillows that looked like they came from Pier One Imports. My only way to connect with all of this was to look at the whole experience as a comedy writing job. But I figured there had to be some women out there who actually got turned on by the images in our magazine. It was a question I got all the time during my time at Playgirl, where I eventually became editor in chief.
After you think of sexting, you as a rule think of men sending unsolicited pictures. But what about the relationships so as to thrive on it — and the women who love it? M adeleine Holden has three simple tips designed for taking a good dick pic. At the outset, zoom out. Second, clear the backdrop of clutter. Third, experiment with angles. Then, for extra credit, consider air, narrative, aesthetics and the desires of the recipient.